Wednesday, January 23, 2008

International Day


Every year our homeschool co-op has an International Day, in which each family researches a country and gives a report to the group. Afterwards we have an international potluck where everyone brings a dish from their country. It's been a fun and very interesting tradition. Grace has presented on Spain and Ireland, and this year she gave her report on Guatemala. My parents had taken a trip there and brought back some cool artifacts, so Grace's interest was peaked and she readily researched all she could. She did a great presentation and looked adorable in her Guatemalan outfit.

Explaining the meaning of the Guatemalan flag's coat-of-arms.


Afterwards she said, "Mama, have you ever put a whole bunch of time and work into something and then afterwards you feel like it's just over so fast? I mean, I did hours of work and then my report was just like five minutes." I said, "Yeah, Grace, I know the feeling."

Tuesday, January 22, 2008

Homebirth: Not Just for Hippies

Here's my official announcement that Richard and I are planning a homebirth with this baby. My reasons for posting this information are 1) I'm really excited about it and want to share! 2) To allow you to process the shock and horror in privacy instead of face-to-face, and 3) To attempt to answer the obvious questions, "Why would you do that?! Are you crazy?" "Is it safe?" "Are you turning into some kind of hippy Earth-muffin birth-goddess weirdo?"

We (well mostly I) have done a
considerable amount of reading and research on this topic. If you'll take a look at the link list on the sidebar you'll see a sampling. Neither Richard nor I have made this decision without much thought, prayer, discussion and research. Our conclusion is that giving birth at home is safe, comfortable, convenient, affordable and overall more desirable than birthing in a hospital. So here goes.

First, the biggest reason why most people never consider a homebirth, because it obviously can't be as safe as birth in a hospital. Right? Well, the answer found in numerous recent studies
is that for a woman who
•has a low-risk pregnancy (i.e. no pre-eclampsia or history of incompetent cervix, for example)
•is planning a homebirth (i.e. not giving birth at home because she didn't make it to the hospital in time!)
has a trained, experienced birth attendant with her (i.e. a trained midwife, not a friend or a nurse or a dentist)
and who lives within a reasonable distance to a hospital,
giving birth at home poses no greater risk to the health and life of the mother and baby than in a hospital. Even better, women who fit these categories and who birth at home greatly decrease their risk of surgical and medical interventions like episiotomy, forceps or vacuum extraction, and c-section. The cesarean section rate for attended homebirths in 2000 was 3.7% vs 19.1% for intended hospital births.

Cascade of Intervention

At home, birth is allowed to unfold as nature intended. Because a woman feels safe in her home and is not disturbed by unfamiliar hospital staff and procedures, the hormones of labor are usually capable of moving her labor along naturally without interventions. Many maternity interventions have unintended effects, especially during labor and birth. Often these effects are new problems that are "solved" with further intervention, which may in turn create yet more problems. This chain of events has been called the "cascade of intervention."

This chain of events can change the course of a woman's labor in important ways, yet couples often have little or no awareness that many interventions are used within a cascade of unwanted side effects. In many instances, these interventions cause problems because they disrupt the normal physiology of pregnancy, labor and birth. For example:
•When a woman is exposed to bright lights, unnecessary activity and strangers performing intimate exams the release of both oxytocin and endorphins are inhibited by the overproduction of stress hormones.
•This slows the progress of labor and intensifies the feelings of pain. It is not uncommon for a woman's contractions to slow upon arrival at the hospital.
•This may lead to augmentation with pitocin, a synthetic form of the hormone oxytocin. Pitocin has been associated with poor fetal heart rates possibly due to the strength and frequency of the contractions it causes.
•This apparent stress on the baby often leads to a c-section.
•Furthermore, the intensity of pitocin-induced contractions leaves the majority of women seeking an epidural. Epidurals are associated with maternal fever, and poor fetal heart rates which again leads many OBs to recommend a c-section.
In choosing a midwife-attended homebirth, we are seeking to avoid unnecessary interventions and the complications they often lead to. We know that at times it becomes prudent to transport to the hospital from home and even benefit from some of the above named interventions, and are willing to do that if necessary. (Hospital transport occurs in less than 10% of all intended homebirths.) Most importantly, the decision to intervene is made in conjunction with our midwife, with full explanation of the benefits and the risks, allowing us to be active participants in our care and birth experience.

The Benefit of Midwives
Midwives are guardians and keepers of normal, healthy pregnancy and birth.

They believe that birth is a natural process, not a disease, and trust in the natural ability of women's bodies to birth their babies.

Midwives are experts in normal birth.
Midwives have been educated and have experience in providing individualized, hands-on support throughout the childbearing year (pregnancy, birth, postpartum). They have expertise in nutrition, natural childbirth, breastfeeding and early parenting, as well as in identifying situations and conditions that fall outside the norm (referring to other care providers when necessary). They follow the Midwives Model of Care.

The Midwifery Model of Care

The Midwifery Model of Care is based on the fact that pregnancy and birth are normal life events. The Midwifery Model of Care includes:
  • Monitoring the physical, psychological, and social well-being of the mother throughout the childbearing cycle
  • Providing the mother with individualized education, counseling, and prenatal care, continuous hands-on assistance during labor and delivery, and postpartum support
  • Minimizing technological interventions
  • Identifying and referring women who require obstetrical attention
The application of this woman-centered model of care has been proven to reduce the incidence of birth injury, trauma, and cesarean section.
The practice of homebirth is very supportive of mother/infant bonding, and indeed midwives strive to protect this most intimate time allowing for the creation and strengthening of the mother-baby bond and unification of the entire family. Babies remain in constant contact with mom from the moment of birth onward. If any assistance is given to aid in baby's breathing it is done on the bed next to mom, where she may touch and speak to her baby. The hospital routine of taking the baby from the mother is not practiced in homebirths.
More Benefits of Homebirth
Continuity of Care
When having a home birth, the care providers remain consistent throughout the entire labor and delivery. There is no change of shift to new caregivers who may or may not understand or value your choices for birthing. Plus, a caregiver who has done all your prenatal work and has been with you throughout your entire labor is more likely to notice potential problems early on and take steps to prevent it or to transfer you to the hospital.

Unlimited Birth Companions
In a hospital, you are usually limited as to the number of companions you're allowed. In addition, none of your other children are allowed, which can be a distraction as you wonder whether the needs of your other children are being met. During a homebirth, children may be allowed to come and go as needed, so that they are still able to interact with their mama as she allows. This can also lessen the burden on the family of securing childcare during a hospital stay.

Safety

Research consistently shows that homebirth only is as safe or safer than hospital birth. There is a documented reduced risk of infection when giving birth at home.

Freedom from Interventions
When birthing at home, no routine interventions such as shaving, enemas, or IV fluids are required. You are not bound by arbitrary hospital policy. You're also able to eat and drink as you choose, which boosts your energy for a lengthy labor. Almost no hospitals allow eating and drinking, which can lead to fatigue and dehydration. Some interventions can still be undertaken at home if indicated, such as fetal monitoring.

Unlimited Labor Choices
When having a homebirth, only your imagination limits your choices for labor. You may labor in whatever positions or environments you choose. In early labor, you can walk around your neighborhood or relax in the tub. You have all the comforts of your familiar home to help maintain the deep relaxation that facilitates a natural childbirth. Plus you don't have to pack up and drive to the hospital while you're in labor! Nice.

Comfort
At home, you are allowed maximum control over your environment, from the clothes you wear to background music or even dozing in bed. A homebirth also offers increased privacy from student nurses or medical interns interrupting your birth experience.


Sorry, I know this has been really long. But honestly, that's just the tip of the iceberg. Three great books I've read expand on the issues of normal, non-medicated, physiological birth versus medically managed, drugged, interventionist-minded birth. I would really recommend them for anyone who wants to have children, is planning a pregnancy, is pregnant or has had children!

The Thinking Woman's Guide to a Better Birth by Henci Goer
Ina May's Guide to Childbirth by Ina May Gaskin
The Birth Book: Everything You Need to Know to Have a Safe and Satisfying Birth by William Sears and Martha Sears

We'd love to talk more about homebirth with anyone who's interested. I knew very early on in this pregnancy that I wanted to birth at home, but Richard said "No Way!" Then I had him read an article, read some book excerpts to him, talked, reasoned, cajoled... and now he's a bigger homebirth advocate than I am! Some friends even j0kingly told him he should become a midwife.

But don't worry, we won't make an offering to the Birth Goddess or chant and light candles and burn incense or make a potion from the placenta (yes, some people do...). We've simply examined some long-held assumptions about birth, hospitals and homes, and feel this is the best option for our family.

Monday, January 21, 2008

Moses' First Haircut!

The day finally came where I gave in and admitted that it was time for my baby to have a haircut. I love his curls. I love how thick and curly and golden his hair is! But it was starting to get difficult to keep nice, i.e. frizzy and sticking up all over the place. And it was getting long. Really long. As in long enough for him to be mistaken for a girl all the time. So I had to consent the the haircut. Here's the before and after pics:

Love those curls!!

In the chair...He really did not enjoy this at all. Thankfully it was all over before too long.


Shorn!
The curls are gone!!



Now he really looks like a big boy. I guess it's appropriate and good, as he won't be the baby in just a few weeks, but it was still a little sad for me to see all his baby curls dropping to the floor. And is it just me, or has he started acting older since the haircut? Does he know he's graduated to a new level of maturity? Richard says it's all in my head, but I swear his grunted replies to my questions hold new depth and meaning.


Friday, January 18, 2008

Waiting


Right now we're waiting for our chick to hatch, and it's been a time of very busyness and also of burrowing in and nesting. I hope there's grace for me as I am pitifully behind in returning phone calls, emails, getting together with friends, blogging, etc. I still love you all! So much of my energy and resources are focused toward this hatching, though. Look for our newest member to arrive somewhere around mid-February!

In the meantime, I'd like to get some Christmas pictures posted and at least one blog entry about our planned homebirth. Yes, I said HOMEBIRTH!! More on that later, hopefully!

Wednesday, December 19, 2007

Four Years

December 19th, 2003

Four Years
Three Babies
Two Homes
One Grace Ann

Countless blessings.

Saturday, November 17, 2007

My Family

I just have to share some recent pictures of my beautiful family.

(Moses wasn't too happy in this picture)


Okay, not that recent, but here's some pictures of Grace at a stream with Grandma this summer.Grace and Grandma Sue


Moses likes to climb into the pantry to scrounge for food. I do feed him, honest.Isn't that cloth diaper so cute?!Grace playing her favorite game with Moses: Starving Orphans. Click on the picture to get a close up of her sign. Notice she doesn't want food or money, only "household things" so that she can furnish her hovel.

My awesome babywearing hubby. "Yeah, I'm crunchy."



Waiting for Papa to come home from work

The first picture of our newest member. Another button-nosed Mailly baby! What do you think, boy or girl? We decided to wait until birth to find out.


They love to read together.



My special candle lit for Matthias on October 15th, Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day.


Playing outside on a clear autumn day.


His new favorite thing - looking at airplanes.

Grace trying really hard to get Moses in his swing.


Richard and I were talking this morning about the blessing of children and how really rich we are. It's so true. These pictures remind me of my true wealth.
"A new born babe brings
Light to the cottage,
Warmth to the hearth,
And joy to the soul,
For wealth is family
And family is wealth."
~Irish Proverb

Thursday, November 15, 2007

Photo Contest Winner!

Simply Charlotte Mason, a website "dedicated to helping you homeschool your children using the Charlotte Mason method and wonderful philosophy of education", recently held their 2007 photo contest. There were several categories, all having to do with homeschooling in the Charlotte Mason method.

For those of you not familiar with the Charlotte Mason method of education, I'll give an overview. Charlotte Mason (1842–1923) was a British educator who invested her life in improving the quality of children’s education. She developed a philosophy of education that has been adapted to modern homeschooling by many parents. From the SCM website:

You can summarize Charlotte’s approach to education in three words. Charlotte believed that “Education is an Atmosphere, a Discipline, a Life.” By “atmosphere,” Charlotte spoke of the environment our children grow up in. She knew that the ideas that rule our lives, as parents, will have a profound impact on our children. “The child breathes the atmosphere emanating from his parents; that of the ideas which rule their own lives” (Vol. 2, p. 247).

By “discipline,” Charlotte emphasized the importance of training our children in good habits—habits that will serve them well as they grow. In fact, she likened good habits to railroad tracks that parents lay down and upon which the child may travel with ease into his adult life. Good habits are a powerful influence on our children and must play an important part in their education. “It rests with [the parent] to consider well the tracks over which the child should travel with profit and pleasure” (Vol. 1, p. 109).

By “life,” Charlotte wanted to remind us that “all the thought we offer to our children shall be living thought; no mere dry summaries of facts will do” (Vol. 2, p. 277). And the methods that Charlotte used presented each subject’s material as living ideas. Here is where the reading, writing, and arithmetic come in, along with all the other school subjects. But notice two important points: first, they are presented as living thoughts; and second, those school subjects occupy only one-third of the big picture of education.

Some of the key methods include using "living books" as opposed to dry, factual textbooks. Living books are usually written in a narrative style and really make the subject “come alive.”

Narration
(having a child tell back to you something he has just read, seen or heard) is also a core component to a Charlotte Mason education. The thinking process involved in putting
something into his own words is much more complex than simply having him fill in the blank on a test.

Charlotte also advocated short lessons for younger children to help train them in the habit of attention. Along with this should come a variety of subjects, alternating the quieter, concentration-intense subjects with the louder, less-concentration-intense subjects and those that allow for physical movement and exercise.


Copywork
is the method Charlotte used to give practice in handwriting skills and to help a child absorb proper grammar and language usage. The child who copies short poems, scripture passages, hymns and segments of classic literature is at the same exposed to English literature at its finest.


Charlotte spent one afternoon per week with her students outside in the fields, meadows, and woodlands. This outdoor time is the setting for nature study. Children look carefully at the viariety of nature around them and write and draw what they observe in their own nature notebooks.


So there's a very brief primer on the Charlotte Mason method. There's really so much more to it! While I don't use CM exclusively, it certainly is a main component in our own homeschooling. So when Simply Charlotte Mason announced their photo contest, I eagerly submitted a few pictures of Grace. And wonder of wonders, one was chosen as the winner to the "Child with Book or Writing" category! Here it is:


I think it really is a great picture of how homeschooling is meant to be, and I'm very pleased to have had it chosen. I got a great free ebook out of the deal, too! So to see all the outstanding photos, go to the SCM Photo Contest. And while you're there, read more about the Charlotte Mason method if you're at all interested in homeschooling. It's great.

Tuesday, November 6, 2007

Snippets of Gratitude



"Nothing taken for granted;
everything received with gratitude;
everything passed on with grace."

~ G.K. Chesterton


1. New mercies every morning

2. Enough grace for today

3. Morning hugs from my husband and children

4. Walks with the kids on crisp autumn mornings

5. Seeing my little boy learning to love and enjoy books

6. Daily Light

7. Setting the clocks back and getting an extra hour of sleep in the morning

8. Kids eating cereal together and being silly and laughing

9. Grace giving up her stool for Moses to sit on

10. Cuddling and nursing Moses in the early morning

11. Sweet open-mouthed baby kisses

12. My unborn child, alive and moving inside me right now

13. Hot coffee in my favorite mug

14. The kids playing with balloons together

15. Grace playing "archaeologist" with cans of food, proving she is listening during school and even finds it interesting!

16. Flowers from my husband

17. Spending an afternoon with my mom and brothers

18. Rubbing feet with my husband in bed

19. Rocking my "baby" to sleep for his nap

20. A little voice calling out, "Mama, Mama".

Sunday, November 4, 2007

The Thousand Gifts

I found this concept at Holy Experience. A list of gifts, written down one-by-one, each day, until I reach 1000. One thousand gifts that have been given to me. A way to open my own eyes to the amazing, incredible, everyday gifts that my Lord showers upon me moment by moment. A way to stir my heart in gratitude toward a Father who loves to give good gifts.

From Ann's post:
"As the moments slip down the hour glass of time, I am scratching down the gifts---just as they happen, as they arrive, as they are unwrapped---that He has given that make my life grace, the daily graces that He gives in an infinite number of ways, that stir me.

I am seeing things I have never seen before, attuned and aware of this constant, endless stream of gifts from His hand. I am one waking from slumber....from the stupor of indifference and ignorance. I have sight, fresh and keen---the world is new and full of His gifts."

"No gift unrecognized as coming from God is at its own best...when in all gifts we find Him, then in Him we shall find all things." -George MacDonald

This is the season for lists. Consider beginning a list of a Thousand Gifts. It has changed me and changed how I look at each day. It has awakened me in new ways to how good God is. I am so, so thankful that He knows me and is a God who delights in giving unique, simple, beautiful, extravagant gifts just for me. How can He love me like that?

Lord, I am so grateful. Make me more so.

Sunday, October 21, 2007

Picking Apples

Over the weekend, the kids and I went to Minnesota Harvest Apple Orchard with our friends the Musgraves and some of their friends. It was a beautiful, crisp fall day, not too hot and not too cold. We all had tons of fun and picked a load of beautiful apples. Here's some pictures:

Moses in the apple bin.






Was that apple a little too sour, Moses?











Grace was a GREAT apple-picker. She shimmied up those trees to reach the best apples.



Relaxing and enjoying the "fruit" of her work.





Thankful for a beautiful day at the orchard.