Sunday, July 5, 2009

Me and the Kids

Back in June Richard took a trip to Florida for his brother's wedding. Because he would be gone for a few days, I thought we should send some pictures of his beloved family with him, lest he get too lonely.

My camera doesn't have one of those little screens you can flip around so you can see where you're aiming when you're pointing the camera at yourself, so I had to guess.

Grace and I have perfected "smiling for the carmera" but apparently Moses and Judah have not. I'm not sure what Moses is thinking, but it's not really what I had in mind when I said, "okay, everybody smile!" At least Judah had it somewhat figured out.












I thought if I tried to take some of just the kids, I would end up with at least one good one. But by the time Moses decided to actually smile, Judah had had enough and was sick of the whole thing. So no perfect picture, but quite a few that accurately captured the family Richard was leaving behind!




Thursday, July 2, 2009

Why Babywear?

I love babywearing. I love the convenience, the closeness and the comfort it provides for me and my little ones. There are so many reasons to wear your baby, and in thinking about what to write for this post, I couldn't get all my thoughts in order - there's so much to say! So instead I decided to share two really good articles on the subject. I hope you find it as cool and interesting as I do!


10 reasons to Wear Your Baby
by Laura Simeon, MA, MLIS

1. Wearing a baby is convenient

When we carry a baby in a sling, we can walk around freely and not have to worry about negotiating steps, crowds or narrow aisles with a stroller. Plastic "baby buckets" and removable car seats are heavy and awkward for parents, babies often look uncomfortable, and they are kept at knee level. A sling can block out excess stimuli when breastfeeding a distractible baby, and it allows for discreet nursing in public places. A sling can also double as a changing pad, blanket, or cushion when away from home. I’ve found my sling especially handy when negotiating busy airports with a small child and several bags!



2. Wearing a baby promotes physical development.

When a baby rides in a sling attached to his mother, he is in tune with the rhythm of her breathing, the sound of her heartbeat, and the movements his mother makes - walking, bending, and reaching. This stimulation helps him to regulate his own physical responses, and exercises his vestibular system, which controls balance. The sling is in essence a "transitional womb" for the new baby, who has not yet learned to control his bodily functions and movements. Research has shown that premature babies who are touched and held gain weight faster and are healthier than babies who are not1. Mechanical swings and other holding devices do not provide these same benefits.


3. Babies worn in slings are happier.

Studies have shown that the more babies are held, the less they cry and fuss2. In indigenous cultures where baby-wearing is the norm, babies often cry for only a few minutes a day - in contrast to Western babies, who often cry for hours each day. Crying is exhausting for both the baby and his parents, and may cause long-term damage as the baby’s developing brain is continually flooded with stress hormones.3 Babies who do not need to spend their energy on crying are calmly observing and actively learning about their environment. Baby-wearing is especially useful for colicky or "high need" babies, who are far happier being worn, but placid, content babies and children will also benefit greatly from the warmth and security of being held close.


4. Baby-wearing is healthy for you!

It can be challenging for new mothers to find time to exercise, but if you carry your baby around with you most of the day or go for a brisk walk with your baby in her sling, you will enjoy the dual benefits of walking and "weightlifting". A long walk in the sling is also an excellent way to help a tired but over-stimulated child fall asleep.


5. Toddlers appreciate the security of the sling.

Slings are usually associated with infants, but they can be very useful for toddlers as well; most slings accommodate children up to 35 or 40 pounds. The world can be a scary place for toddlers, who feel more confident when they can retreat to the security of the sling when they need to do so. Toddlers often become over-stimulated, and a ride in the sling helps to soothe and comfort them before (or after!) a "meltdown" occurs. It can be very helpful in places like the zoo, aquarium, or museum, where a small child in a stroller would miss many of the exhibits.


6. Baby-wearing helps you and your baby to communicate with each other.

The more confidence we have in our parenting, the more we can relax and enjoy our children. A large part of feeling confident as a parent is the ability to read our baby’s cues successfully. When we hold our baby close in a sling, we become finely attuned to his gestures and facial expressions. Many baby-wearing parents report that they have never learned to distinguish their baby’s cries because their babies are able to communicate effectively without ciying! Every time a baby is able to let us know that she is hungry, bored or wet without having to cry, her trust in us is increased, her learning is enhanced, and our own confidence is reinforced. This cycle of positive interaction enhances the mutual attachment between parent and child, and makes life more enjoyable for everyone.


7. Slings are a bonding tool for fathers, grandparents, and other caregivers.

Slings are a useful tool for every adult in a baby’s life. It makes me smile when I see a new father going for a walk with his baby in a sling. The baby is becoming used to his voice, heartbeat, movements and facial expressions, and the two are forging a strong attachment of their own. Fathers don’t have the automatic head-start on bonding that comes with gestation, but that doesn’t mean they can’t make up for this once their baby is born. The same goes for babysitters, grandparents and all other caregivers. Cuddling up close in the sling is a wonderful way to get to know the baby in your life, and for the baby to get to know you!


8. Slings are a safe place for a child to be.

Instead of running loose in crowded or dangerous places, a child in a sling is held safe and secure right next to your body. Slings also provide emotional safety when needed, so that children can venture into the world and become independent at their own pace.


9. Slings are economical.

Slings cost far less than strollers, front-carriers or backpacks. Many mothers consider the sling to be one of their most useful and economical possessions. Inexpensive used slings can be found in consignment and thrift stores, and new ones can be bought for about $25 -$50 (U.S.) not bad for an item many parents use daily for two years or more!



10. Baby-wearing is fun.

Who doesn’t love to cuddle a precious little baby? And when your baby is older, having her in the sling makes conversations easier and allows you to observe her reactions to the wonders of the world around her. It’s also fun for baby, because when she is up at eye level, other adults notice and interact with her more. Your child will feel more a part of your life when she is in her sling, and you will find yourself becoming more and more enchanted with this special little person.


1 "Current knowledge about skin-to-skin (kangaroo) care for pre-term infants". J Perinatol. 1991 Sep;11(3):216-26.
2Hunziker, U.A. and R.G. Barr (1986). "Increased carrying reduces infant crying: A randomized controlled trial". Pediatrics. 7:641-648.
3Powell, A. "Harvard Researchers Say Children Need Touching and Attention", Harvard Gazette.

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3 REASONS BABYWEARING REDUCES SIDS
By William Sears, MD


If SIDS is basically a disorder of respiratory control and neurological immaturity (and I believe it is), anything that can help a baby's neurological system mature overall will lower the risk of SIDS. That's exactly what babywearing does.


Something good happens to babies who spend a lot of time nestled close to nurturing caregivers. Here's why.


1. Babywearing gives a vestibular connection.


Babywearing exerts a regulatory effect on the baby, primarily through the vestibular system. In the womb, the baby's very sensitive vestibular system is constantly stimulated because a fetus experiences almost continuous motion. Babywearing provides the same kind of three-dimensional stimulation and "reminds" the baby of the motion and balance he enjoyed in the womb. The rhythm of the mother's walk, which baby got so used to in the womb, is experienced again in the "outside womb" during babywearing.


Activities such as rocking and carrying stimulate the baby's vestibular system. Vestibular stimulation is a recently appreciated tool for helping babies breath and grow better, especially premature infants—those at highest risk of SIDS.


Babies themselves recognize that they need vestibular stimulation; infants deprived of adequate vestibular stimulation often attempt to put themselves into motion on their own, with less efficient movements, such as self-rocking. Researchers believe that vestibular stimulation has a regulating effect on an infant's overall physiology and motor development.



2. Motion regulates babies.


Motion calms babies. Carried infants show a heightened level of quiet alertness, the behavioral state in which infants best interact with and learn from their environment. Researchers believe that during the state of quiet alertness, the child's whole physiological system works better.


3. Carried babies cry less.


Parents in my practice commonly report, "As long as I wear her, she's content!" Parents of fussy babies who try babywearing relate that their baby seems to forget to fuss.


This is more than just my own impression. In 1986, a team of pediatricians in Montreal reported on a study of ninety-nine mother-infant pairs, half of whom were assigned to a group which was asked to carry their babies for at least three extra hours a day and were provided with baby carriers. The parents in this group were encouraged to carry their infants throughout the day regardless of the state of the infant, not just in response to crying or fussing, although the usual practice in Western society is to pick up and carry the baby only after the crying has started. In the control, or non-carried group, parents were not given any specific instructions about carrying.


After six weeks, the infants who received supplemental carrying cried and fussed 43 percent less than the non-carried group.


Anthropologists who travel throughout the world studying infant-care practices in other cultures agree that infants in babywearing cultures cry much less. In Western culture we measure a baby's crying in hours per day, but in other cultures, crying is measured in minutes. We have been led to believe that it is "normal" for babies to cry a lot, but in other cultures this is not accepted as the norm. In these cultures, babies are normally "up" in arms and are put down only to sleep—next to the mother. When the parent must attend to her own needs, the baby is in someone else's arms.


In addition to the physiological effects of vestibular stimulation, there appear to be psychological benefits. Sling babies seem to show a feeling of rightness, enabling them to adapt to all that is unfamiliar about the world to which they are now exposed, lessening their anxiety and need to fuss. As baby senses mother's rhythmic breathing while worn tummy-to-tummy and chest-to-chest, the babywearing mother acts as a regulator of her infant's biology.

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My Most Basic Answer to the Question, "Why Babywear?" is:

• Babies want - and need - to be held A LOT.

• You and I want to have our hands free in order to accomplish all the things we need to do every day.

• Babywearing = Problem Solved!


Tuesday, June 30, 2009

Moses' 3rd Birthday

Some snapshots from Moses' third birthday:



This is really cool because fire is involved.


Moses called these his "birthday muffins."


"Happy birthday to YOU!"


We love you, Moses!


Blow out the candles!


Ow, I touched a candle and it was hot!


Pondering the pile of presents.


Opening the first card...



It says, "Happy 3rd Birthday, Moses!
We love you from Papa, Mama, Sissy, Judah and New Baby."

Cute little three-year-old feet.

Oooh, this toy is from Uncle Caleb and it involves screwing little pieces of metal together. Perfect.


Grandpa and Grace



Ripping into the next one...


A wooden train set!

Can I open it now?


Time for a picture with Sissy. Which means the goofy smile appears...
There were so many cool things at Creative Kidstuff that we couldn't resist getting something for Grace and Judah. I hope they don't remember next year because it's not meant to be a new tradition! Grace got a jump rope...

...and her very youthful Grandma demonstrated how to run while skipping rope.


Judah is intrigued.
Apparently he doesn't remember what presents are from his 1st birthday in February.


Am I supposed to step on it?

Oh, I get it!


It's a super-cool latch board!


Moses forgot about his other presents for a minute!

Back to the business at hand.

Monster Memory! Yay for family games.

Happy 3rd Birthday, Sweet Boy!!! We love you!

Thursday, June 25, 2009

Happy Birthday, Moses!


Happy 3rd birthday to my dear, funny, charming boy. I love you more than words.

Thursday, June 18, 2009

Almost Three



This is Moses telling his friends Maimie and Ellianna about ants.



Do you know 'bout ants?


Ants have dese sharp things and dey can pinch you


Like dis


And deir mouths are so sharp and dey bite you.


I have ants at my house and I see dem all da time

So, do you guys know 'bout ants?


This boy will be three years old in one week!

This and That

I had a yard sale last Saturday. I realized that I had way too much stuff in this little house and that another baby was never going to fit unless we cleared some junk out first. So that's what I did, and it feels great! The baby will now fit.

Plus, we earned almost half of what we need to purchase our Phil and Ted's double stroller. I can't wait to get it. Last time we walked to the park Moses got tired of riding his little Radio Flyer scooter about half way and I had to try to push him and Judah in our single jogging stroller with one hand and carry the scooter with the other. Not fun.

My mom and Bonnie also joined in the sale with me, and one thing they brought to sell was a box of old bone china teacups and saucers. I've been casually collecting old teacups at thrift stores and whatnot, so I picked out a couple for myself. Grace decided she wants to collect teacups too, so my mom let her pick out two. I think she's going to give one to BFF Katrina so they can have tea parties.

Anyway, Grace has also decided she's going to have tea every morning when she wakes up. This morning when I came downstairs with Judah (Moses was still sleeping) she had made her bed, gotten dressed, and was sipping tea from a lovely china cup. "English Breakfast," she informed me, "just like Grandma".

I decided to fly through the shower while Mo was still asleep and asked Grace to watch Judah for me. (Oh, the joys of having a ten year old girl in the house! The showering dilemma is solved!!)

When I got out I peeked into Grace's room, and there was Judah, perched on a stool at Grace's desk, swinging his legs happily listening to praise music and taking long swigs from his sippy cup.

"Judah likes English Breakfast tea, Mom!" Grace tells me. "I let his try some out of my teacup and he smiled and signed 'more' so I gave him some in his sippy cup!"

Sure enough, he likes it. We'll see if he takes a morning nap!

Grace has also been taking care of our neighbor's five chickens while they are on vacation. Who knew you could have chickens in our suburb! Grace has of course made friends with all the chickens and now loves them dearly, especially "Buffy", who obviously loves Grace back because "she's the only one who has never pecked me!" I'm pretty sure Grace is gearing up to ask us for some chickens of her own.

The boys and I go along every morning with Grace to "help," and Moses especially enjoys picking "geens" for the bunny Hannah. ("Geens" would be dandelion leaves.) It's a fun little morning excursion.


One other thing that Moses has been up to lately is not really in the "cute" or "fun" category. I made the mistake of letting him pee outside one time while we were doing school in the yard and I didn't want to interrupt our lesson for the one millionth time. I had him take off his pants and undies and go in an inconspicuous spot. Who knew that would open up a whole new world of possibilities to him! He now drops his pants anytime, anywhere, to relieve himself. And I'll put this delicately by saying there have been one or two occasions where we're not talking about just pee.

Last Sunday we had our Small Group over and were enjoying a meal together outside. All the kids were happily playing and we adults chatting away when Moses comes bolting in from the back yard and yells, "Hey guys! Come see! There's a whole bunch of poop and pee back there!!"

The fact that he was naked from the waist down was a pretty good indication of where said poop and pee came from.

The kid's been potty trained for quite a while, but I feel like we're going through it all for a second time! Ugh. I never had this problem with Grace....


On a different note, I'm really enjoying the Kate Greenaway Illustrations Clip-Art CD that Richard bought for me. She is one of my favorite illustrators and I love how she dresses the children in her books. I've decided to dress all my kids in the style of "Kate Greenaway children". I can't see a mother who looks like this and children dressed so beautifully being anything but light, lively and cheerful all the day long!



In fact, in her own time "Kate Greenaway children" became so popular that a whole generation of mothers in the 1880's and '90's dressed their children in high-waisted pinafores, pantaloons and mobcaps for the girls and "skeleton suits" and straw hats for the boys, all styled after Kate's drawings.

I can't see a little boy dressed like this pooping in the yard.

Friday, June 12, 2009

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Wednesday, June 3, 2009

A (Not Very Convincing) Case Against Homeschooling

I've read a few of the "Top Ten Reasons Not to Homeschool" type of things before and none has ever made me think, Oh my gosh, they're RIGHT! I shouldn't be homeschooling! This one, written by Jesse Scaccia at Teacher, Revised, is no exception.

Some of his arguments include "God hates homeschooling" and "As a teacher, homeschooling kind of pisses me off." Hm.

Anyway, I considered writing my own point-by-point responses, but two other homeschool moms have already done such a great job that I'll just pass their posts on to you!

Anne at Our Homeschool
has some great points, including: "
I'm not homeschooling to thumb my nose at hardworking teachers, but because I love teaching my kids and think they're thriving in a homeschooling environment."

Spunky at Spunky Homeschool not only refutes each argument with a healthy dose of wit, but gets a crack in at Joe Biden to boot! Awesome. I love this, in response to the argument that "learning" and things like eating and playing shouldn't happen in the same place:
I'm sure this is hard to understand for a teacher confined to teach in an institution all day, but the world is truly both a child's playground and their classroom. It provides both a focused place of study and the ability to roam freely. It's time to think globally and liberate yourself and your students from a classroom-centric world.

While homeschooling isn't the easiest thing I've ever done, I am convinced that it is great for my kids and that I'm not a "self-aggrandizing, society-phobic mother" because I homeschool!

Saturday, May 30, 2009

Feed Your Stash!

Your cloth diaper stash, that is...

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Saturday, May 23, 2009

High-Tech or Hands-On?

While shopping [one] day, I noticed hand-dipped chocolates, homegrown vegetables, hand-spun wool, homemade preserves, cottage-industry soaps—all at premium prices, since they were made with care, individually, by hand, at home. I reflected, too, on how "old-fashioned" doctors, famous for house calls and compassion, are remembered fondly as part of the "good old days" and praised for their one-on-one caring. I mused how our society honors unique, special, one-of-a-kind items and services.

Yet when it comes to maternity care, it seems the bigger and busier, the better: high-tech procedures, standardized treatment, massive patient loads, in-and-out, assembly-line-style facilities. We are urged to leave the clean peace and quiet of home and go, instead, to a large, centralized center and entrust ourselves to a system of detached and often distracted institutional workers whom we've never met and may never see again. I find it hard to believe that anyone would consider hospital care preferable, if they really thought about it.


High-tech or hands-on? The choice is not new. In many cases, of course, mechanical and technological advances have been just that: improvements. Other advances, as we all know too well, have resulted in lasting harm.


Judy Edmunds, excerpted from "A Grand Triumph," Midwifery Today Issue 37