Friday, March 5, 2010

Sometimes You Just Have to Cry

Usually my kids take turns being crabby and/or crying. This I can manage, most of the time.

But then there are the days when Clementine is wailing to be nursed, Judah is sobbing because Moses hit him, and Moses is bawling because he's been put on the chair. In those moments, when my entire world seems to be filled with crying children and I think my head is going to explode, I sometimes want to run upstairs and hide under the covers of my bed. But usually I just look at Grace and say, "Why don't we cry too?"

Then Grace and I pretend to cry just as loud and desolately as the other people in the room. Sometimes this just releases some stress. But sometimes it makes the Young Ones stop in surprise and stare at us. Occasionally it even ends with us all laughing together.

But once in a blue moon, all three of the Young Ones are crying and Grace is for real crying too, like when she has to do some really hard math or if I've told her we don't have co-op until next week and she thought it was this week.

Then I gather all my crying children around me and tell them how much I love them. I say, "I'll nurse the baby, and Moses and Judah can sit on the couch with me - with Mama in the middle so there's no hitting - and we'll skip math for now, and we'll all read some books together." This ends nicely, with all of us happy and loving each other.

Or else I text Richard at work and tell him I'm going crazy and he needs to come home NOW. He usually texts back something very good like,

"Go outside for a minute and take some deep breaths, eat some chocolate and TRUST IN JESUS! I love you!"

It's a good thing I have a husband who can handle it when all four of his children AND his wife are crying all at the same time.


e&e said...

So happy to know I'm not the only one who has those days!

The going outside thing really does help, but only when its nice enough to go outside. We can't wait for warm weather!

Sometimes it helps if I go outside alone and leave the crying kids (safely) inside. :)

Rachel said...

Thanks Melissa - While I'm not having one of *those* days right now, they are definitely part of my life. I appreciate hearing I'm not alone and how other moms cope. Now if there was just a support group for dads who have to come home on those days!

rbenson said...

I feel like hat almost everyday. With my three year old always wanting attention and my two WAHM business, Cloth diapers and Mary Kay. Most of the time I spread myself to thin. I don't know what I would do with three kids. At least not every day is like that and I know we are not alone. It just feels good to vent every so often. Anyway if you are looking for cloth diaper please take a look at our site.

Trish said...

You have the best way of putting real life down into words. Can you write my life out, too??

Love you. Soon, I'll be joining you!