Every year our homeschool co-op has an International Day, in which each family researches a country and gives a report to the group. Afterwards we have an international potluck where everyone brings a dish from their country. It's been a fun and very interesting tradition. Grace has presented on Spain and Ireland, and this year she gave her report on Guatemala. My parents had taken a trip there and brought back some cool artifacts, so Grace's interest was peaked and she readily researched all she could. She did a great presentation and looked adorable in her Guatemalan outfit.
Glimpses of my family and thoughts on mothering as I tend our home and hearth.
Wednesday, January 23, 2008
International Day
Every year our homeschool co-op has an International Day, in which each family researches a country and gives a report to the group. Afterwards we have an international potluck where everyone brings a dish from their country. It's been a fun and very interesting tradition. Grace has presented on Spain and Ireland, and this year she gave her report on Guatemala. My parents had taken a trip there and brought back some cool artifacts, so Grace's interest was peaked and she readily researched all she could. She did a great presentation and looked adorable in her Guatemalan outfit.
Tuesday, January 22, 2008
Homebirth: Not Just for Hippies
Here's my official announcement that Richard and I are planning a homebirth with this baby. My reasons for posting this information are 1) I'm really excited about it and want to share! 2) To allow you to process the shock and horror in privacy instead of face-to-face, and 3) To attempt to answer the obvious questions, "Why would you do that?! Are you crazy?" "Is it safe?" "Are you turning into some kind of hippy Earth-muffin birth-goddess weirdo?"We (well mostly I) have done a considerable amount of reading and research on this topic. If you'll take a look at the link list on the sidebar you'll see a sampling. Neither Richard nor I have made this decision without much thought, prayer, discussion and research. Our conclusion is that giving birth at home is safe, comfortable, convenient, affordable and overall more desirable than birthing in a hospital. So here goes.
First, the biggest reason why most people never consider a homebirth, because it obviously can't be as safe as birth in a hospital. Right? Well, the answer found in numerous recent studies
is that for a woman who
•has a low-risk pregnancy (i.e. no pre-eclampsia or history of incompetent cervix, for example)giving birth at home poses no greater risk to the health and life of the mother and baby than in a hospital. Even better, women who fit these categories and who birth at home greatly decrease their risk of surgical and medical interventions like episiotomy, forceps or vacuum extraction, and c-section. The cesarean section rate for attended homebirths in 2000 was 3.7% vs 19.1% for intended hospital births.
•is planning a homebirth (i.e. not giving birth at home because she didn't make it to the hospital in time!)
•has a trained, experienced birth attendant with her (i.e. a trained midwife, not a friend or a nurse or a dentist)
•and who lives within a reasonable distance to a hospital,
Cascade of Intervention
This chain of events can change the course of a woman's labor in important ways, yet couples often have little or no awareness that many interventions are used within a cascade of unwanted side effects. In many instances, these interventions cause problems because they disrupt the normal physiology of pregnancy, labor and birth. For example:
The Midwifery Model of Care
- Monitoring the physical, psychological, and social well-being of the mother throughout the childbearing cycle
- Providing the mother with individualized education, counseling, and prenatal care, continuous hands-on assistance during labor and delivery, and postpartum support
- Minimizing technological interventions
- Identifying and referring women who require obstetrical attention
When having a home birth, the care providers remain consistent throughout the entire labor and delivery. There is no change of shift to new caregivers who may or may not understand or value your choices for birthing. Plus, a caregiver who has done all your prenatal work and has been with you throughout your entire labor is more likely to notice potential problems early on and take steps to prevent it or to transfer you to the hospital.
Unlimited Birth Companions
In a hospital, you are usually limited as to the number of companions you're allowed. In addition, none of your other children are allowed, which can be a distraction as you wonder whether the needs of your other children are being met. During a homebirth, children may be allowed to come and go as needed, so that they are still able to interact with their mama as she allows. This can also lessen the burden on the family of securing childcare during a hospital stay.
Safety
Research consistently shows that homebirth only is as safe or safer than hospital birth. There is a documented reduced risk of infection when giving birth at home.
Freedom from Interventions
When birthing at home, no routine interventions such as shaving, enemas, or IV fluids are required. You are not bound by arbitrary hospital policy. You're also able to eat and drink as you choose, which boosts your energy for a lengthy labor. Almost no hospitals allow eating and drinking, which can lead to fatigue and dehydration. Some interventions can still be undertaken at home if indicated, such as fetal monitoring.
Unlimited Labor Choices
When having a homebirth, only your imagination limits your choices for labor. You may labor in whatever positions or environments you choose. In early labor, you can walk around your neighborhood or relax in the tub. You have all the comforts of your familiar home to help maintain the deep relaxation that facilitates a natural childbirth. Plus you don't have to pack up and drive to the hospital while you're in labor! Nice.
Comfort
At home, you are allowed maximum control over your environment, from the clothes you wear to background music or even dozing in bed. A homebirth also offers increased privacy from student nurses or medical interns interrupting your birth experience.
Sorry, I know this has been really long. But honestly, that's just the tip of the iceberg. Three great books I've read expand on the issues of normal, non-medicated, physiological birth versus medically managed, drugged, interventionist-minded birth. I would really recommend them for anyone who wants to have children, is planning a pregnancy, is pregnant or has had children!
The Thinking Woman's Guide to a Better Birth by Henci Goer
Ina May's Guide to Childbirth by Ina May Gaskin
The Birth Book: Everything You Need to Know to Have a Safe and Satisfying Birth by William Sears and Martha Sears
We'd love to talk more about homebirth with anyone who's interested. I knew very early on in this pregnancy that I wanted to birth at home, but Richard said "No Way!" Then I had him read an article, read some book excerpts to him, talked, reasoned, cajoled... and now he's a bigger homebirth advocate than I am! Some friends even j0kingly told him he should become a midwife.
But don't worry, we won't make an offering to the Birth Goddess or chant and light candles and burn incense or make a potion from the placenta (yes, some people do...). We've simply examined some long-held assumptions about birth, hospitals and homes, and feel this is the best option for our family.
Monday, January 21, 2008
Moses' First Haircut!
The curls are gone!!
Friday, January 18, 2008
Waiting

Right now we're waiting for our chick to hatch, and it's been a time of very busyness and also of burrowing in and nesting. I hope there's grace for me as I am pitifully behind in returning phone calls, emails, getting together with friends, blogging, etc. I still love you all! So much of my energy and resources are focused toward this hatching, though. Look for our newest member to arrive somewhere around mid-February!
In the meantime, I'd like to get some Christmas pictures posted and at least one blog entry about our planned homebirth. Yes, I said HOMEBIRTH!! More on that later, hopefully!
Wednesday, December 19, 2007
Saturday, November 17, 2007
My Family
"A new born babe brings
Light to the cottage,
Warmth to the hearth,
And joy to the soul,
For wealth is family
And family is wealth."
~Irish Proverb
Thursday, November 15, 2007
Photo Contest Winner!
For those of you not familiar with the Charlotte Mason method of education, I'll give an overview. Charlotte Mason (1842–1923) was a British educator who invested her life in improving the quality of children’s education. She developed a philosophy of education that has been adapted to modern homeschooling by many parents. From the SCM website:
You can summarize Charlotte’s approach to education in three words. Charlotte believed that “Education is an Atmosphere, a Discipline, a Life.” By “atmosphere,” Charlotte spoke of the environment our children grow up in. She knew that the ideas that rule our lives, as parents, will have a profound impact on our children. “The child breathes the atmosphere emanating from his parents; that of the ideas which rule their own lives” (Vol. 2, p. 247).
By “discipline,” Charlotte emphasized the importance of training our children in good habits—habits that will serve them well as they grow. In fact, she likened good habits to railroad tracks that parents lay down and upon which the child may travel with ease into his adult life. Good habits are a powerful influence on our children and must play an important part in their education. “It rests with [the parent] to consider well the tracks over which the child should travel with profit and pleasure” (Vol. 1, p. 109).
By “life,” Charlotte wanted to remind us that “all the thought we offer to our children shall be living thought; no mere dry summaries of facts will do” (Vol. 2, p. 277). And the methods that Charlotte used presented each subject’s material as living ideas. Here is where the reading, writing, and arithmetic come in, along with all the other school subjects. But notice two important points: first, they are presented as living thoughts; and second, those school subjects occupy only one-third of the big picture of education.
Some of the key methods include using "living books" as opposed to dry, factual textbooks. Living books are usually written in a narrative style and really make the subject “come alive.”
Narration (having a child tell back to you something he has just read, seen or heard) is also a core component to a Charlotte Mason education. The thinking process involved in putting something into his own words is much more complex than simply having him fill in the blank on a test.
Charlotte also advocated short lessons for younger children to help train them in the habit of attention. Along with this should come a variety of subjects, alternating the quieter, concentration-intense subjects with the louder, less-concentration-intense subjects and those that allow for physical movement and exercise.
Copywork is the method Charlotte used to give practice in handwriting skills and to help a child absorb proper grammar and language usage. The child who copies short poems, scripture passages, hymns and segments of classic literature is at the same exposed to English literature at its finest.
Charlotte spent one afternoon per week with her students outside in the fields, meadows, and woodlands. This outdoor time is the setting for nature study. Children look carefully at the viariety of nature around them and write and draw what they observe in their own nature notebooks.
So there's a very brief primer on the Charlotte Mason method. There's really so much more to it! While I don't use CM exclusively, it certainly is a main component in our own homeschooling. So when Simply Charlotte Mason announced their photo contest, I eagerly submitted a few pictures of Grace. And wonder of wonders, one was chosen as the winner to the "Child with Book or Writing" category! Here it is:
I think it really is a great picture of how homeschooling is meant to be, and I'm very pleased to have had it chosen. I got a great free ebook out of the deal, too! So to see all the outstanding photos, go to the SCM Photo Contest. And while you're there, read more about the Charlotte Mason method if you're at all interested in homeschooling. It's great.
Tuesday, November 6, 2007
Snippets of Gratitude

everything received with gratitude;
everything passed on with grace."
~ G.K. Chesterton
1. New mercies every morning
2. Enough grace for today
3. Morning hugs from my husband and children
4. Walks with the kids on crisp autumn mornings
5. Seeing my little boy learning to love and enjoy books
6. Daily Light
7. Setting the clocks back and getting an extra hour of sleep in the morning
8. Kids eating cereal together and being silly and laughing
9. Grace giving up her stool for Moses to sit on
10. Cuddling and nursing Moses in the early morning
11. Sweet open-mouthed baby kisses
12. My unborn child, alive and moving inside me right now
13. Hot coffee in my favorite mug
14. The kids playing with balloons together
15. Grace playing "archaeologist" with cans of food, proving she is listening during school and even finds it interesting!
16. Flowers from my husband
17. Spending an afternoon with my mom and brothers
18. Rubbing feet with my husband in bed
19. Rocking my "baby" to sleep for his nap
20. A little voice calling out, "Mama, Mama".
Sunday, November 4, 2007
The Thousand Gifts
I found this concept at Holy Experience. A list of gifts, written down one-by-one, each day, until I reach 1000. One thousand gifts that have been given to me. A way to open my own eyes to the amazing, incredible, everyday gifts that my Lord showers upon me moment by moment. A way to stir my heart in gratitude toward a Father who loves to give good gifts.From Ann's post:
"As the moments slip down the hour glass of time, I am scratching down the gifts---just as they happen, as they arrive, as they are unwrapped---that He has given that make my life grace, the daily graces that He gives in an infinite number of ways, that stir me.
I am seeing things I have never seen before, attuned and aware of this constant, endless stream of gifts from His hand. I am one waking from slumber....from the stupor of indifference and ignorance. I have sight, fresh and keen---the world is new and full of His gifts."
"No gift unrecognized as coming from God is at its own best...when in all gifts we find Him, then in Him we shall find all things." -George MacDonald
This is the season for lists. Consider beginning a list of a Thousand Gifts. It has changed me and changed how I look at each day. It has awakened me in new ways to how good God is. I am so, so thankful that He knows me and is a God who delights in giving unique, simple, beautiful, extravagant gifts just for me. How can He love me like that?
Lord, I am so grateful. Make me more so.